What are those characteristics in a child that makes them accepted or rejected by their peers?
No matter how adorable the kids are to us, they are an individual outside and no one is obliged to love them like we do.
So, then how can we help our kids to stand out and make friends outside the comfort of their home?
No matter how adorable the kids are to us, they are an individual outside and no one is obliged to love them like we do.
So, then how can we help our kids to stand out and make friends outside the comfort of their home?
1. Read the Crowd
It is important to understand that popularity comes with being accepted. If you and your ideas are not accepted, in no way you are popular.
This leads us to the point that one must understand the crowd and its demands of that time.
Your kid needs to gradually read the wishes of others and guide them towards it.
This way, your kid will be "influential".
Simply put, if a play group of 10 kids want to go swimming, and your kid suggests badminton, then your kid's suggestion will be rejected and overtime by making the same mistake, your kid will be unpopular. So instead of suggesting a different sport altogether, your kid can suggest some fun activities that can be done during swimming.
Your kid needs to gradually read the wishes of others and guide them towards it.
This way, your kid will be "influential".
Simply put, if a play group of 10 kids want to go swimming, and your kid suggests badminton, then your kid's suggestion will be rejected and overtime by making the same mistake, your kid will be unpopular. So instead of suggesting a different sport altogether, your kid can suggest some fun activities that can be done during swimming.
2. Initiate Play
Kids who initiate play/activity usually become popular.
Encourage your kids to socially interact and not hang back, or wait for others to come and play with them.
Encourage your kids to socially interact and not hang back, or wait for others to come and play with them.
Conversely, when asked which kid in the group is most un-liked, chances are that the kid which initiates most fights and shows aggression, will be unpopular and gets rejected by others.
With time, continuous rejection, makes such kids isolated and they develop feelings like hatred, revenge and sadness.
With time, continuous rejection, makes such kids isolated and they develop feelings like hatred, revenge and sadness.
3. Continue Interaction
Sometimes kids loose interest and stop interacting with others. Such kids stop being popular.
Secondly, if your kid is only interested in playing and nominating themselves as the head leader, overtime he/she will be opposed.
In both cases, you need to tell your kids that they must have a good interaction and know the wishes of all those who are in the group.
Self-appointing a certain role or cribbing when not given the crucial part of the play, will make them unpopular.
Self-appointing a certain role or cribbing when not given the crucial part of the play, will make them unpopular.
Talk to kids about how to behave so that the other kid is comfortable with them.
One of the signs of your kid being popular and others want to be with him/her is that they are continually asked to join the play, invited at other kid's home, and asked for help in homework.
While there are many ways to furnish good habits into your kid's personality, little effort and words of wisdom during mealtime and before sleep on daily basis is the key to inculcate changes in them.
One of the signs of your kid being popular and others want to be with him/her is that they are continually asked to join the play, invited at other kid's home, and asked for help in homework.
While there are many ways to furnish good habits into your kid's personality, little effort and words of wisdom during mealtime and before sleep on daily basis is the key to inculcate changes in them.
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